I Am Not a Bum. You Are Not a Loser.
Part 4: Taking the High Ground
If you’ve read the first three posts, you know the secret. You know the enemy’s strategy. You’ve heard my story. And you’ve started to hear what God actually says about you. Now comes the part that matters most: living it.
Because knowing the truth and living in the truth are two different things. The enemy doesn’t stop whispering just because you’ve identified his voice. He adapts. He waits. He tries new angles. So this final post is about taking the high ground—spiritually and practically—and keeping it. Not just for a day or a week, but for good.
And before you think, “Oh great, here comes the part where he tells me to read my Bible and pray,”—yes, I’m going to talk about that. But that’s not all. Not even close. Because faith without action is dead, and God doesn’t just want you to believe differently. He wants you to live differently.
Step One: Renew Your Mind
Everything starts here. The battlefield has always been your mind—that’s where the lies took root, and that’s where the truth has to replace them.
“Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind.” — Romans 12:2
Renewing your mind isn’t a one-time event. It’s a daily discipline. It means choosing, deliberately, to replace the enemy’s voice with God’s voice. Every morning. Every time a dark thought surfaces. You don’t argue with the lie. You replace it. You speak the truth out loud if you have to. Jesus did this when Satan tempted Him in the wilderness—He didn’t debate. He simply said, “It is written,” and quoted Scripture. That’s your weapon. Use it.
Nick Vujicic—born without arms or legs, bullied throughout his childhood, and once so hopeless he tried to end his life—put it simply: “It’s a lie to think you’re not good enough. It’s a lie to think you’re not worth anything.” He’s now one of the most sought-after motivational speakers in the world. His breakthrough came when he stopped believing the lie and started believing God’s truth about who he was.
Step Two: Find Your People
You cannot do this alone. I know that’s not what some of you want to hear. You’ve been hurt by people, so the last thing you want is more people. I understand. But isolation is the enemy’s second-favourite tool after lies. He wants you alone because alone is where you’re weakest.
“And let us consider how we may spur one another on toward love and good deeds, not giving up meeting together, as some are in the habit of doing, but encouraging one another.” — Hebrews 10:24–25
This means finding a church. And I know that can feel terrifying. You might think, “I don’t know the Bible well enough. I’ll look stupid. I won’t fit in.” Let me put that to rest right now: nobody expects you to show up with a theology degree. Churches are full of people who are new to God and His Word. Many of the people sitting in those pews once felt exactly the way you feel now. The whole point of church is that you don’t have to figure this out on your own.
But it’s not just about Sunday mornings. It’s about building a life around like-minded people. Find Christians your age. Find people with similar interests. Let yourself be befriended—and be a friend. Look for believers at your school, your workplace, your neighbourhood. You’d be amazed how many people are fighting the same battle you are, quietly, right next to you.
Corrie ten Boom—a woman who survived a Nazi concentration camp and lost most of her family—spent the rest of her life helping others find healing and forgiveness through Christ. She once said, “When we are powerless to do a thing, it is a great joy that we can come to One who has power to do everything.” She didn’t heal alone. She healed in community, sharing her story and walking alongside others.
Step Three: Embrace the New Creation
This is the part where knowing and doing finally merge. Becoming a new creation in Christ isn’t just a spiritual idea—it’s a decision to live differently, starting today. It means:
Letting go of your anxiety and pain. Not by pretending it doesn’t exist, but by handing it to the One who can actually carry it. “Cast all your anxiety on Him, because He cares for you” (1 Peter 5:7). That’s not a suggestion. It’s an invitation from the God of the universe to put the weight down.
Forgiving those who hurt you. This is hard. Maybe the hardest thing I’ll ask of you. But unforgiveness is a chain that keeps you tied to the person who wounded you. Forgiving doesn’t mean what they did was okay. It means you’re choosing freedom over bitterness. It’s for your sake, not theirs.
Changing your daily inputs. What are you listening to? What are you watching? Who are you spending time with? If your daily diet is negativity, darkness, and the same voices that tore you down, you’re feeding the lie. Start feeding the truth instead. Read Scripture. Listen to worship music. Surround yourself with people who speak life, not death.
Taking action. Volunteer somewhere. Serve someone who has less than you. Nothing kills the lie of worthlessness faster than being useful to someone else. When you give, you prove—to yourself and to the enemy—that you have something worth giving.
Lizzie Velasquez was born with a rare condition that prevents her from gaining weight. She was once the subject of a viral video titled “The World’s Ugliest Woman.” The comments told her to kill herself. Instead, she became a motivational speaker and anti-bullying advocate. She said, “Awful things happened to me, but I am still here smiling and happy. I am so grateful that what I have been through has given me the opportunity to be a voice for so many people.” That’s what taking the high ground looks like.
Step Four: Stand Your Ground
The enemy will come back. He always does. But you are not the same person he attacked before. You know his playbook now. You know his one trick. And you have something you didn’t have before: the truth.
“Submit yourselves, then, to God. Resist the devil, and he will flee from you.” — James 4:7
Notice the order. Submit to God first. Then resist. You don’t fight the enemy on your own strength. You fight from the strength of the One who already defeated him. And when you resist—when you refuse to agree with the lie—he will flee. Not because you’re powerful. Because the One standing behind you is.
“No weapon formed against you shall prosper, and every tongue which rises against you in judgement you shall condemn. This is the heritage of the servants of the Lord.” — Isaiah 54:17
That’s your heritage. Not failure. Not worthlessness. Not “bum.” Your heritage is that nothing the enemy throws at you will succeed. Not if you stand in Christ.
The Lie vs. The Truth
I want to leave you with something practical. Below is a table of lies you may have been told—by a parent, a bully, a classmate, a stranger, or the voice in your own head—alongside what God says instead. Cut this out. Stick it on your mirror. Read it every morning until it sinks in. Replace the lie with the truth, one day at a time.
| What the Enemy Says | What God Says |
| “You’re ugly.” | “I am fearfully and wonderfully made.” — Psalm 139:14 |
| “You’re stupid.” | “If any of you lacks wisdom, let him ask of God, who gives generously.” — James 1:5 |
| “You’re worthless.” | “God chose the weak things of the world to shame the strong.” — 1 Corinthians 1:27 |
| “You’re fat / too thin / not enough.” | “Your beauty should not come from outward adornment… rather, it should be that of your inner self.” — 1 Peter 3:3–4 |
| “You should never have been born.” | “Before I formed you in the womb I knew you; before you were born I set you apart.” — Jeremiah 1:5 |
| “Nobody loves you.” | “For God so loved the world that He gave His only Son.” — John 3:16 |
| “You’ll never amount to anything.” | “For I know the plans I have for you… plans to give you hope and a future.” — Jeremiah 29:11 |
| “You might as well kill yourself.” | “The thief comes to steal, kill and destroy. I have come that they may have life, and have it abundantly.” — John 10:10 |
| “You’re beyond saving.” | “If anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation. The old has passed away; the new has come.” — 2 Corinthians 5:17 |
| “Nobody cares about you.” | “Cast all your anxiety on Him, because He cares for you.” — 1 Peter 5:7 |
A Prayer for You
I want to close this series with a prayer. If you’ve never prayed before, that’s fine. A prayer is just an honest conversation with God. You don’t need special words. You don’t need to be in a special place. You just need to mean it. If these words resonate, make them yours:
Father, I’ve been carrying lies for a long time. Lies about who I am. Lies about what I’m worth. Lies about whether I deserve to be alive. Today, I’m putting them down.
I believe that You made me—fearfully and wonderfully. I believe that You have plans for me. I believe that Your Son, Jesus, died so that I could have a new life, and I’m asking for that life right now.
Forgive me for the ways I’ve hurt myself and others. Help me to forgive those who have hurt me. Renew my mind. Give me the courage to find people who will walk this road with me. And help me to be that person for someone else.
I am not a bum. I am not a loser. I am not a failure. I am Yours.
In Jesus’ name. Amen.
If you prayed that prayer and meant it, something has shifted. It might not feel dramatic. It might not feel like anything at all. That’s okay. Seeds don’t look like trees on the first day either. But something has been planted. And the God who started this good work in you will be faithful to complete it (Philippians 1:6).
You’ve been listening to the wrong voice for long enough. It’s time to tune in to a new one. A voice that doesn’t whisper cruelty in your ear, but speaks life over you. A voice that says:
You are Mine. You are loved. You are enough. And the best is yet to come.
Welcome to the high ground. Stay here. It’s where you belong.
If you or someone you know is in crisis right now, please reach out. You are not alone.
New Zealand: Lifeline 0800 543 354 | Need to Talk? Free call or text 1737
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